Wine, Shoes and Easter Bonnets #LittleLoves

Is it almost the weekend again already? This year is flying by and I’m not too sure if that’s a good thing, I feel a little bit like I would like time to slow down a little at the minute. Anyway, without further ado…

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The Tesco Home catalogue, and I was pleasantly surprised!  This summer we’re planning to convert our old outbuilding into a summer house and I’ve been doing a little bit of research of what I would like the interior to be like. Ideally I’d want a bit of a beach hut theme but hubby is insisting that he wants his signed Man Utd shirt in there (one of his most prized possessions) so the compromise is a bit of retro style which should hopefully accommodate it a bit more.

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Being One Tree

Love is a temporary madness,
it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides.
And when it subsides you have to make a decision.
You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together
that it is inconceivable that you should ever part.
Because this is what love is.
Love is not breathlessness,
it is not excitement,
it is not the promulgation of eternal passion.
That is just being “in love” which any fool can do.
Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away,
and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.
Those that truly love, have roots that grow towards each other underground,
and when all the pretty blossom have fallen from their branches,
they find that they are one tree and not two.

Captain Corelli’s Mandolin by Louis de Bernieres

This was one of the readings at our wedding.  I cried the first time I ever read it and it still brings me to tears today.  For me, this sums up marriage perfectly.

I married my husband five days before the 14th anniversary of the day we met.  We were certainly not in the first flushes of love, that had long passed.  We have had many ups and downs, arguments, break ups, getting back togethers.  The one thing that we discovered over time was that there was nobody else that we wanted to be with, and when you realise that you can make the commitment to build a life together.

A marriage doesn’t survive based on the good times, it can’t.  The good times are great whilst they last , but there will often be something round the corner to bring you crashing down to earth.  This is when you need to have someone to cling onto.

When you are hurting, irrational, unreasonable, lashing out, feeling alone, love is having someone telling you it will all be okay and passing you a large glass of wine.  Someone who is holding you together when you feel like you are falling apart.

And these times will pass, there will be good times again, and you come out the other side stronger, together.  As one tree.

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And then the fun began...
Let's Talk Mommy

New Friends, My Little Family & Sun #LittleLoves

Thank you so much for your lovely comments on last weeks post, they really meant so much at what has been a bit of a tough time. This week has been spent focusing on all the lovely things that I have in my life that I am so grateful for and at times have been a bit guilty of losing that perspective.

Last Saturday I headed off to London to meet up with some lovely bloggers (including a few of our little love ladies). It was so nice to meet up with them in “real life” and it was such a wonderful afternoon with lots of chatting and a lot of Prosecco flowing.

Thanks again for the photo KA xx

Thanks again for the photo KA xx

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I read a book, a whole book, in two days. I do like Jane Green and this is slightly darker than her usual chick lit type books but it was a great read.

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I also read this little treat that O had made at nursery. It really made me giggle as I hate cleaning, have never made bread in my life and we’ve only tossed pancakes once. Don’t you love what goes through kids minds?

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Watched
I watched Bridesmaids when I got in last Saturday. I’ve seen it a couple of times before and it still makes me giggle!

Wore
I treated myself to a blazer last week. I’ve wanted one for ages but a lot I’ve tried on look a bit too big and then I feel like I’m playing dress up in my mums clothes. Anyway, I spotted this one in Peacocks and I’m a little bit in love with it, it’s been worn A LOT this week.

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Heard
I’m so rubbish at this category! I’ve heard lots of chatter at the bloggy meet up. As well as chatting about everything and anything it’s also really nice to chat about blogging with people who get it. My husband listens when I talk about it but he’ll admit he doesn’t get it, at all! The man doesn’t even have a Facebook account!

Made
This week has been all about the smoothies, so I have got the blender out and been trying a few different recipes for my breakfast. This one was my favourite; raspberry, banana and orange.

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We’ve also made the most of the sun being out and been in the garden a lot. O loves being outside, he’ll spend all day out if he could, and it’s starting to make me excited for summer.

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And Lastly….
For Mothers Day we went back to where we got married for Sunday lunch. It was such a lovely afternoon, the food was delicious and the venue were also giving us Mums a little treat of a facial at a nearby spa (which reminds me, I must book mine in).

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And that was our week, actually a really nice one and tomorrow I’m off into Liverpool with a friend for champagne afternoon tea, so excited. Hope you all have a great week!

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Friendships, Old And New

On New Years Eve I did something that had been playing around in my mind for a while. It made me sad (and still does a little), but I wanted to enter 2015 with a clean slate. I knew this year was going to be a tough one and I needed to be surrounded by people who were going to be on my side.

So what did I do? I deleted three of my oldest friends from my phone and unfriended them on Facebook. There was no drama or confrontation, I simply clicked the delete button. It had taken me a long time to realise it, but these girls weren’t my friends anymore, not in any real sense of the word. I could count on one hand the number of times I had seen them in the past five years and when I looked back at text conversations they were almost always initiated by me, unless they wanted something.  When you try to arrange a meet up and the response is, “I don’t know what my plans are yet”, you know you’re not a priority!

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Looking For Rainbows #LittleLoves

I always knew this was going to be a tough week. There were two possible outcomes for the end of it, one which would make me the happiest girl in the world and one which would break my heart. Unfortunately it was the latter. I apologise in advance as this is not likely to be the cheeriest of Little Loves but there have a been a few little rays of light in an otherwise dark few days.

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My blog reading has been pretty non existent this week and I really need to catch up on some commenting from a couple of linkies I joined in at the start of the week, I will get round to it I promise. I have read some lovely comments on my post yesterday which explains what happened this week and they have made me feel like I’m not alone and provided some comfort. One person I have to mention here is the lovely Caroline from Sweetnener and Spice. She is an amazing lady and has been so supportive these past few days. It really does help to talk to someone who knows exactly what you are going through and to listen to your ramblings.

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The Post I Never Wanted To Write

I really wish I wasn’t writing this. I wish I was writing something silly & fluffy that would maybe make you giggle, I wish things were different.

The past few days have probably been the hardest I’ve ever had to get through and this is when I’m very grateful that people I know in “real life” don’t read my blog. It gives me the option to talk about this in my own way.

If you’ve been a long term reader of my blog (thank you very much if you are) you’ll know we’ve been struggling to conceive a second child. After two years of trying, together we made the decision to give IVF a go.

I will never be able to put into words how hard IVF is. People say it’s a roller coaster, they ain’t joking! Some people find it helpful to write down their experience, I could only cope focusing on one day at a time. Maybe I’ll be able to write about it in retrospect one day but that time isn’t now. It’s all a bit too raw.
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The First Day Of Spring

Yesterday the sun came out and for the first time this year it wasn’t accompanied with the bitter cold that comes with the winter sun.  It was warm, really warm.  Which meant it was far too nice a day to spend inside.

We are lucky that a few minutes drive away from our house is a little nature reserve that despite being in the middle of what is quite a suburban area makes you feel like you are miles away and even when it’s busy (as it was yesterday) you hardly bump into anyone on the walk round.  Well, maybe a giant wooden owl!

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You Can Always Find The #LittleLoves

To be honest I almost didn’t join in this week. It feels like it has been, because there are no other words to describe it, a bit of meh week. One that you focus on getting through. But then I realised I was losing the point of the linky that I love so much. Even in what feels like the crappest of weeks there are some small moments that make you happy, and actually when I sit down to look at it there has been quite a few.

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This week I have had the attention span of a 3 year old and have struggled to even get to the end of a slightly longer than normal blog post. One post I did read this week was for Yellow Belly Mummy, In Praise Of The NHS. I actually read it on Monday when I was heading back to the hospital and I couldn’t agree more. Maybe I’m lucky, but I have received such wonderful care over the past few years from the NHS and the nurses have been amazing.

Watched
Last Sunday morning I made a last minute decision to take O to the cinema. After flicking on my phone I found that our local Cineworld was showing Planes 2 for the bargain price of £1.35 each. I quickly booked me and O tickets, got us up and dressed and off we went. O loves the original Planes, I’ve lost count of how many times he’s watched it and he loved the second. I love spending a bit of quality time holding my little boys hand watching his little face light up at what Dusty is up to.

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An Early Mothers Day Treat

I have to admit I love flowers. Not quite to the same extent that Elton John does, but I do  try to always have a few fresh ones in the house even if they are just a bunch of £1 daffodils from the supermarket. There’s something about seeing them that always makes me smile. My husband is not really one for buying flowers, I’m struggling to remember the last bunch he bought me, so it’s usually a little treat I get for myself.

Last week Debenhams Flowers contacted me and asked if they could send me one of their Mothers Day Flowers bouquets. In a week where I was due to go to hospital, which meant a bit of a recovery period at home, their timing couldn’t have been better.

The most difficult part was choosing the bouquet as they were all so beautiful. After a long time deliberating I chose a bouquet made up go lilac roses and pink lilies. I love the vintage look of them and if we hadn’t opted for a winter wedding I think these would have been the style I would have gone for.

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