It Sucks Being A Poorly Mum

Being ill when you’re a mum is rubbish. Whereas in a pre mummy life, you’d have taken yourself off to bed with enough trashy magazines to last you for the duration or headed for a hot bath with something medicinal, these options no longer apply with a toddler to consider.

Since Baby O started nursery 12 months ago he has managed to pass on 3 sickness viruses and I’m pretty sure he’s responsible for the flu-like symptoms I’m currently experiencing. He himself never gets ill. but I’m convinced he’s the carrier. I’ve had 10 years of not being sick (well, apart from self inflicted alcohol related incidents), so I’m positive it’s not a coincidence.

I’m a rubbish sick person, all I want to do is curl up on the couch on my own, under the duvet and watch weepies (The Notebook and The Lake House were my usual poorly movie favourites), but Baby O doesn’t allow for this. You see, toddlers really don’t care that you’re not well. They still want to play and you still need to entertain them.

And I have to say my husband is no better, he rarely gets ill so I get no sympathy from him. Earlier this year I’d phoned in sick for work after spending most of the night throwing up for him to say “well, we don’t need to take Baby O to nursery today then.” Ermm, let me think about that. A day at home watching me clinging to the toilet bowl or a day filled with fun at nursery, that we will have to pay for regardless of whether he goes or not. Yes dear, genius idea!

So despite me wanting to hide away today we have managed to go to the park, go to swimming lessons, go shopping, played with most of the toys in the house, provide 3 meals and snacks, which involved me trying not to throw up as Baby O tried to feed me the chewed up ham he’d spat out of his own mouth. Enough to make you want to puke on the best of days! All of this done without the benefit of an hours nap break as my son has decided that napping is for wimps and he’d much rather fight the tiredness and then spend all afternoon being a grump.
Bedtime is now in sight, so we are starting to chill before bath-time, stories and bed. At 7:05pm I will be wallowing in a hot bath with a large glass of wine (purely for medicinal purposes) and hoping that after a good nights sleep I’ll be feeling better tomorrow.

Being a poorly mum sucks!


  1. October 24, 2013 / 7:09 pm

    Sorry you are feeling ill, so hard looking after little ones at the best of times let alone when you are poorly. I hope the wine and bath help! x

    • notafrumpymum
      October 24, 2013 / 7:24 pm

      Thanks, the bath was lovely, but I must be poorly as I couldn’t face a glass of wine, not like me at all! Hubby is making hot dog comfort food. Early night I think,

  2. October 24, 2013 / 10:06 pm

    That sickness bug thing that they keep passing on is TERRIBLE. Plus I have a family who doesn’t understand that sickness bugs exist, so it must be food poisoning and I am not keeping my house clean enough.

    Poor you – sounds like you’ve had a tough day. Quite the heroine for keeping Baby entertained too.

    • notafrumpymum
      October 25, 2013 / 4:13 pm

      Thanks, but really not a heroine, just trying to take my mind off it. If I stay in, I just feel sorry for myself so try to keep busy.
      Luckily feeling a lot better today xx

  3. Hannah
    October 25, 2013 / 5:51 pm

    Oh no sounds like you’ve had quite a time of it.
    I hope you enjoy that lovely bath and start to feel better very soon.
    ps. chewed up ham is never clever at the best of times aye 😉 x

    • notafrumpymum
      October 25, 2013 / 5:53 pm

      Haha, no it’s not. My sons eating habits leave a lot to be desired! x

  4. we3three
    October 25, 2013 / 5:53 pm

    no one tells you that you arent allowed to be ill once you are a mum! that came as a massive shock to me! i agree it is awful when u feel crap but you’ve got to be fun mum 🙁 get well soon x

  5. Catherine @frmlittlethings
    October 25, 2013 / 7:30 pm

    No such thing as sick days for mummies! Little miss keeps coming home with a new one every week from nursery. Starting to wonder why I even send her!

  6. Kate
    October 25, 2013 / 7:57 pm

    Get better soon! Everyone forgets to tell you about the loss of sick days when you become a parent!!! *hugs* xx

  7. October 25, 2013 / 9:46 pm

    I don’t think that as mums we are actually allowed to be poorly I think it is against the law. Both of my babies (aged 7 months and 2) had a tummy bug last weekend, my husband went to the football. So I spent the day looking after them, but I didn’t really feel too well. As soon as he got in I handed him the kids and spent the rest of the night feeling sick, lay on the couch. It was almost as if I was ‘allowed’ to be ill once the kids were being watched by someone else! Anyway, I hope that you are feeling better soon sweet. You’re right – it really SUCKS being a poorly Mum xxxx Hugs x

  8. Alison
    October 25, 2013 / 9:53 pm

    You enjoy that glass of wine and have a well deserved relax!

  9. October 26, 2013 / 2:35 pm

    I hope you feel better soon chuck. Sounds like you are a super strong Mum!

  10. Colette B
    October 26, 2013 / 6:47 pm

    I genuinely think being a poorly mummy is *the* hardest thing about being a mum. Hope you feel better now x

  11. October 27, 2013 / 8:41 am

    Wow you must be really ill if you couldn’t manage the wine!
    I remember these days well. Definitely something they forget to mention in all the parenting books!
    Its amazing how much stronger we become for our kids. Even when we feel rotten we can still manage to entertain them and feed them! x

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