Finding my Mummy Style #notafrumpymum

Becoming a Mum is hard in so many ways, but one of the aspects I found the hardest was adjusting to my post bump shape.  During my first pregnancy I gained a lot of weight, and went from a size 10 to a 14 and everything in my wardrobe was far too small.  I remember buying a hideous green skirt for O’s first Christmas because it was a size 12.  I refused to believe I was a 14 and bought it simply because it was a 12 (and had a much needed elasticated waist!)

It took a lot of hard work to lose that weight and almost as soon as I had we started trying for baby two.  This was followed by three years of my weight going up and down as I comfort ate, dieted, exercised a lot and stopped exercising altogether.  The clothes I bought were boring and functional and I found myself a little lost in knowing what to buy for myself.  I felt too old for Oasis and Topshop but wasn’t sure where that left me.

My confidence was at rock bottom.  The inability to conceive our much longed for second child affected me in so many ways and one of those was that I wanted to hide myself away and I think the clothes I chose were a reflection of that.  Since having G I am happier than I have been in years, and as a 30-something I feel I’m finding my mum style.  When you become a mum you give so much to the tiny humans you have created and it can take a while to find yourself again.

To celebrate our individual mum style I’m nervously launching the #notafrumpymum hashtag and I would love you to join in.  For those outfits that make us feel fantastic, the practical daywear that is essential when you are running around after little ones, and the old favourites that we can’t live without. I’d love to see them.

I’m not going to pretend I’m high fashion, I’m really not, but I like to look nice and I think a lot of us Mums feel the same way. On a Sunday evening I will be sharing a few of my fave pics from the week on my Instagram page and it would be great to see you there.  Because becoming being a mum doesn’t mean becoming a frump! #notafrumpymum



  1. February 28, 2017 / 9:42 pm

    This is such a great idea. I don’t post much about fashion but I’ll definitely join in when I can x

  2. March 3, 2017 / 3:16 pm

    Great idea!! I’ll be joining in first chance I have. By the way I can totally relate to this, my body did the exact same thing all three times. Iris is now almost a year and I’m still a large 12, where I was a 10 before we found out I was pregnant. I’m now starting to wonder if I’ll ever budge this last stone!!
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    • March 4, 2017 / 10:33 am

      Thanks lovely, it’s taken a long time to feel good about myself again and it’s such a nice feeling. Don’t get me wrong, I could still do with shifting that last half a stone but I’m not going to make myself miserable to do it. xxx
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  3. March 3, 2017 / 7:47 pm

    This was EXACTLY my thinking when I set up #ThisMamaWears!! I got so fed up with seeing achingly fashionable — or size 8 — women/model types on my Instagram feed — I want to see normal women, looking lovely — in their ‘normal’ style. I’ll definitely support you in this Jo!! Maybe I should shout about my own little hashtag a bit. I have been very secretive about it, cos I felt silly posting ‘fashion’ pics of myself — here’s to us!!! And to normal women, looking lovely!!! xx
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    • March 4, 2017 / 10:35 am

      You definitely should shout your hashtag a bit more, I love it and love your This Mama Wears feed. I quite like looking at the high fashion pics on IG but I just know I would look a fool in them and I get more fashion inspiration from real women. I quite often go and buy something I have seen on someone else’s IG. I hate taking pics of myself, I feel so awkward and it takes about 20 to get one I’m half happy with. xx
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  4. March 4, 2017 / 6:11 pm

    Ah I know what you mean, I feel like I am going through a frump phase at the moment and I hate it. I know I would feel so much better if I made a bit more of an effort and lay of the bread and crisps for a bit, but I seem incapable of both! xx

  5. March 5, 2017 / 8:49 pm

    You always have fab outfits. I love this hashtag idea. Once I get myself better at outfit shots I will totally join in babes. You look amazing. #wrc

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