The Beginnings Of A Brother

Before I became pregnant O had never shown any desire to have a brother or sister.  I have to admit it was something I was very grateful for in those days when it looked like we wouldn’t be able to conceive a second.  It was hard enough dealing with our own disappointment, it would have been heartbreaking to hear O asking why he didn’t have a sibling.  My mother in law did once ask him if he wanted a brother or sister and his response was a very adamant “No”.

He was always quite happy being an only child, he loves being the centre of our attention, is doted on my two sets of grandparents and has a cousin who is only eight months older than him who he is really close to.  He understood the concept of having a brother or a sister as a few of his nursery friends had them but it didn’t seem to bother him that he didn’t.

When we did find out we were expecting we were over the moon but I did have a little worry in the back of my mind as to how O would take the news.  We both agreed that we wouldn’t tell him anything until after the 12 week scan, after an early scare we wanted to make it to that milestone, just in case something went wrong.

We took him out for dinner to tell him the news, that mummy had a baby in her belly and he was going to be a big brother.  He couldn’t have looked less impressed and asked “Why?”.  We spent a few more minutes talking about it and then he went back to playing with his planes, not fussed.

As our families started to ask him about becoming a brother he would often brush the question aside or quickly change the subject.  I suppose at just turned 4 it’s quite a hard concept to get your head around.  We chose to back off from talking about it and let him come to terms with the idea in his own time.

Gradually he started to bring up the subject of the new baby by himself.  He would ask odd, random questions that seemed to show the idea that a new addition to the family was rattling around in his head.  He was very concerned about how the baby could eat whilst it was in my belly.

Over the past couple of months he has really come round to the idea and is becoming more and more excited by the day.  He has a teddy which he is looking after to give to the baby when he arrives.  O is being Teddy Cuddles guardian until his new owner is here, and O has already decided he is going to help with the nappy changes (I’m not sure he’ll still be so keen when he sees what’s inside).  O loves putting his hand on my belly to tickle the baby and often kisses my tummy for no other reason than just to give the baby some love and affection.

In those moments when we are snuggled on the couch talking about our new baby I realise how precious this time is.  These times when it is just me and O, their days are numbered, but hopefully what comes next will be even more amazing.  For so long I feared we would never have this, that we would never have the chance to make our son a brother.  It saddened me that we would never share the experience of welcoming a new person into our little family.

I’m so lucky to have the opportunity to watch my gorgeous boy start to become a big brother, and he is really growing into the role.  Whilst in our ideal world we would have had a much smaller age gap, I actually love that O is that little bit older and can understand what is happening.  For so long it has felt that our family wasn’t quite complete, that someone was missing but now that someone is on his way, and I can’t wait for my two precious boys to meet.

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  1. February 21, 2016 / 8:41 am

    Ah this is so lovely Jo and it sounds like he will be an amazing big brother. I just do think it’s a hard concept to understand really. When we told the girls Mads was super excited but at two and a half LL just didn’t really get it at all. She now does mention it every so often, but neither of them talk about it all the time, just on the odd occasion. Mads knows to watch my tummy and she cuddles ‘baby boy’ but then she is that bit older. I think once they are here both my girls and your little boy will be the best big siblings! Xx

  2. February 21, 2016 / 4:33 pm

    Oh Jo this is just so lovely! Your new baby is going to be showered with so much love. Nine months to prepare has clearly been great for all of you. Sounds like O will make a fabulous big brother. X
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  3. February 21, 2016 / 6:03 pm

    Oh so lovely! Having two children is just the best. Watching my two start to play together is the best feeling ever. How exciting for you, wishing you all the best with your pregnancy 🙂 xx
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  4. mummyofboygirltwins
    February 21, 2016 / 6:46 pm

    SO lovely and how amazing that this is coming true for you all 🙂 He will be a superb brother and very kind and sweet. And watching them grow up will be wonderful. Lovely, lovely post xx

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  5. Notmyyearoff
    February 21, 2016 / 7:46 pm

    He will the best brother I bet and will be very protective. Z is like this now and we have to keep reminding him to give the baby some space because he doesn’t like strangers near him. He also shouts “huggy time!!!!” several times a day!
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  6. February 22, 2016 / 12:13 pm

    Aww this was such a lovely read. I have two stepchildren and with my current (first) pregnancy, I wasn’t sure how they would react or feel but answering their every little questions or just the fact that I am there to help them bond with the unborn baby through answering their curiosity is such a blessing!

    Congratulations and good luck for June.

  7. February 22, 2016 / 6:11 pm

    Lovely post, it is amazing watching my two play and grow together. Siblings are so important and my sisters are my best friends. It sounds like he will be a perfect older brother x
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  8. February 22, 2016 / 9:09 pm

    Aww that’s so sweet and I love that his questions are all about how the baby will be safe and looked after until it’s born – definitely better than the “Mummy how will the baby get out?” which took some explaining!!
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