A Sign Of Things To Come

What’s that saying? You have a son until he finds a wife, have a daughter and you have her for life! Today I had a glimpse of things to come and I’m really hoping the saying proves not to be true.

On a sunny bank holiday Monday, after spending the day together we headed to our local for a quick drink before dinner. We weren’t the only ones and there were lots of other kids playing in the beer garden.

One little girl in particular caught O’s eye. She goes to his nursery and is quite often in the pub at the same time as us so he’s spent time with her before.

His little face lit up as he watched her, and he headed over to play. Now a 2 year olds flirting techniques are fairly limited so an invitation to play in the mud was all that was needed. He looked at me and told me very clearly that A was his friend.

He chased her, copied her, poked her and she did the same. I tried to coax him to move closer to where we were sitting but he didn’t want to know. My little man only had eyes for one girl and it wasn’t me.

As I stood there feeling like a spare part in their innocent play it dawned on me that one day this would be my permanent role. On the sidelines as he builds a relationship with another woman that I can’t compete with.

At the moment I am that little boys world. Returning from an hours spin class involves at least 10 minutes of leg hugging to welcome me back. I’m the woman he wants kisses and cuddles from, but one day that will change.

One day giving his old mum a kiss will be a duty rather than a magical, make everything in the world better, experience.

He will grow up and he will move on, and I’ll be watching him and supporting him every step of the way.

Even if my heart is breaking a little bit as he does so!



  1. April 21, 2014 / 9:33 pm

    This was very sweet 🙂 Honestly though be happy that he has all the girl skills. I’ve lost count of the number of times my girls complained about boys in their class who thought if a girl comes near them they’re “going to kill them”.

    • April 21, 2014 / 9:40 pm

      Normally he’s a bit wary of girls but he has taken a huge shine to this one, and kept telling us about her even after we’d got home. I think she was more interested in the mud though!

  2. Donna
    April 21, 2014 / 10:02 pm

    This is a lovely post, it’s something that all of us Mums of boys get to look forward to…! x

  3. April 22, 2014 / 6:05 am

    I had this conversation with my mum a few weeks ago. For her it was true & she sadly has no contact with her son, nor do I with my half brother. I really hope it doesn’t get anywhere near that with my boy! X

    • April 22, 2014 / 6:12 am

      That’s so sad, but I have seen it happen myself with mums and sons and it does really worry me. My husband is very close to his mum and sees her at least twice a week so I’m hoping O and I still have that relationship when he’s all grown up! Thanks for commenting x

  4. April 22, 2014 / 8:22 pm

    AWWWW this is so sweet. F has recently got a ‘girlfriend’ at pre-school 🙂
    My plan here is to be the best mother in law ever! x

    • April 22, 2014 / 9:13 pm

      Fab plan! My MIL is absolutely fab, couldn’t ask for a better one.

      Digging the toddler love, so cute to watch x

  5. pottymouthedmummy
    April 23, 2014 / 7:29 am

    Having dealt with some mil issues I am hoping I can hide my crying and sadness at losing my little boy!!! God help the girl if I end up like my mil!! Xxx #sharewithme

  6. lifeatthelittlewood
    April 23, 2014 / 7:39 am

    Oh Jo!! This made me well up a little! I feel exactly the same about Noah, but the only consolation I’d offer is that by six, O will not be within ten feet of a girl, and tell you he is NEVER getting married 😉 I know this will change, but am enjoying thoroughly being the only girl he has eyes for, for a few years anyway! Gorgeous post xxx

  7. Iona@redpeffer
    April 23, 2014 / 7:52 am

    I refuse to think about this, it’s too hard! I know my relationship with my son is already different to that with my daughter but I’m living in the moment-that future is too far away 🙂

  8. April 23, 2014 / 8:32 am

    This so cute! I have a daughter so I don’t know what this is like but it is so cute to watch toddlers playing together lovely post #sharewithme

  9. April 23, 2014 / 8:54 am

    That’s heartbreaking, but so true! I prefer not to think about it. My boys are 10 and 12 now. My 10 year old held my hand last week and it felt like the best thing because he never does it. He was terrified and that’s why he did it, which isn’t so great. He only lets me cuddle him when he’s upset or ill. I was so jealous when I saw a dad give his year 6 boy a kiss outside school today – I don’t think my boy has let me kiss him in public since year 2!

  10. Emma
    April 23, 2014 / 9:48 am

    Awww this is something I dread, my son is such a mummy’s boy and I love it, I don’t like to think about the day that he doesn’t need me anymore 🙁 #sharewithme

  11. wrymummy
    April 23, 2014 / 11:11 am

    Oh, killer! I’ve got three sons and a lot of heartache ahead of me. The hardest part of motherhood is letting them go…Lovely post.x

  12. April 23, 2014 / 1:03 pm

    ooohhh how cute. Carson has several girlfriends – and I am not on his radar when he’s near them *sobs quietly*
    popped over from #sharewithme would love if you came and said Hi! x carsonsmummy.blogspot.co.uk

  13. Jenny
    April 23, 2014 / 1:07 pm

    Ahhhh bless him! So true! I am so scared of this. i think the saying is spot though. I will be so sad to compete with another female. I am not very good at that I always lose. lol What a fantasticly written post. Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me and for all your amazing support each week on my linky and blog. Forever grateful. You still have a while yet before you have to completely share your little one so hold on to him tightly. and cherish each moment. lol #sharewithme

  14. Alexandra Mercer (Broody Me)
    April 23, 2014 / 2:17 pm

    Oh that is so cute! #sharewithme

  15. Merlinda (@pixiedusk)
    April 23, 2014 / 4:32 pm

    Baby love! So sweet! I cantwait for updates =P #sharewithme

  16. April 23, 2014 / 8:27 pm

    Aw – such a sad thought to lose our babies to another woman! Cute little toddler love right now though! My four year old has a little girl who loves him at pre-school and always wants to give him a big hug when he arrives and when he leaves and its really sweet! I’m sad I haven’t got a daughter but at least we won’t have to fork out for the wedding eh?! 😉

    • April 23, 2014 / 8:30 pm

      Haha, so true. Actually I’ve just remembered this is his second “girlfriend”. He’s also got his eye on a girl at our weekly toddler sense class. What a little player!! x

  17. Saskia
    April 23, 2014 / 8:48 pm

    Aw what a lovely post. As a new mummy to a little boy too, I totally get this. He has made me feel a little sad for my OH’s mum too.. like I’ve stolen him away from her. He’s 24. Luckily she loves me too so I think that makes it easier 🙂 x

  18. Saskia
    April 23, 2014 / 8:48 pm

    ps. coming over from #sharewithme!

  19. emilytealady
    April 23, 2014 / 9:16 pm

    Aw this is so touching, no one can compare to your mum! I have a daughter, and to be honest I haven’t thought of this until I read your post. I think growing up and letting go is hardest thing as a mum x

  20. Caroline (Becoming a SAHM)
    April 24, 2014 / 2:31 pm

    Lol, so sweet and so sad at the same time! One day though I fear it will be true. What cutie though getting in with the ladies already!! xx #sharewithme

  21. April 26, 2014 / 7:26 pm

    Ohhhh this has brought a tear to my eye. My son is 4 and he often has girls declaring their love for him. Its the blond hair and blue eyes I think! I dread to think what it will be like in a few years time!
    x x

  22. April 27, 2014 / 8:19 pm

    Children growing up is so bittersweet for the parents isn’t it, I don’t want my girls to grow up but I do want to see what lovely ladies they will turn into!

  23. April 29, 2014 / 7:16 pm

    Aww boys have a special relationship with their mums, although it’s hard as they grow up. Thankfully it’s very gradual! #MBPW

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